Christmas is a time for family. And in my family, at least nine of my sisters/cousins have had babies or gotten pregnant this year that I can think of right now, and there are even more with very small children. And while I did really love cuddling with my sleepy six-month old nephew, thinking about this kind of freaked me out. Especially when my aunt, after informing my twenty-something year old sister who isn't married and I that she now has eight grandchildren, said "You guys need to get on that, your parents need some more grandchildren." I just turned 19, and I realized that I am now potentially going to be considered in the pool of marriage-eligible cousins ("who do you think will get married next?" is a favorite game at family gatherings on both sides. Since there are quite a few cousins that are now married, the "who do you think will have a baby next?" version is also quite popular). I am very young, and of course I realize that there is no reason I need to get married and start having babies right now, that is silly, but spending so much time with my very "Utah Mormon" extended family has kind of immersed me again in that culture, and I'm not sure how I feel about some aspects of it.
But, taking into account one of my cousin's words which were said mostly (I think) jokingly to my other sister, I won't really need to worry about any of that anyway...(he really is a great guy and I think since they are both not married he really was just joking, and a lot of this is kind of out of context)...he just said things like "personality is not enough for a guy, you also need to be attractive, guys like it when you wear like five different types of makeup, don't overdo it but they like when you have a lot of different kinds of makeup you wear. You also have to smell really good, maybe like fruity or like vanilla, I need to talk to my girlfriend about smelling more girly actually...guys like ambitious girls but not in a threatening way...they don't dislike things like going to law school or necessarily want a girl in hair school, but ideal would be like a girl who is in law school but acts like she's in hair school." I guess life is even more complicated than I thought...but trying to be a perfect "guys' girl" at this point might be too difficult for me, so I'll most likely just stick with my original plan of living my life and trying to balance being nice to people while doing what makes me happy. And following my heart, of course.
On a sort of related note, these are for some reason my new favorite videos right now. This really is what girls are like. But not in a way that makes me feel like it's just stereotyping negatively (I think I could be something of a feminist if enough fuel was added to that fire. except for the fact that I don't really like female sports announcers). It kind of makes me feel happy and connected with girldom, because I do say some of these things. A lot.
But, taking into account one of my cousin's words which were said mostly (I think) jokingly to my other sister, I won't really need to worry about any of that anyway...(he really is a great guy and I think since they are both not married he really was just joking, and a lot of this is kind of out of context)...he just said things like "personality is not enough for a guy, you also need to be attractive, guys like it when you wear like five different types of makeup, don't overdo it but they like when you have a lot of different kinds of makeup you wear. You also have to smell really good, maybe like fruity or like vanilla, I need to talk to my girlfriend about smelling more girly actually...guys like ambitious girls but not in a threatening way...they don't dislike things like going to law school or necessarily want a girl in hair school, but ideal would be like a girl who is in law school but acts like she's in hair school." I guess life is even more complicated than I thought...but trying to be a perfect "guys' girl" at this point might be too difficult for me, so I'll most likely just stick with my original plan of living my life and trying to balance being nice to people while doing what makes me happy. And following my heart, of course.
On a sort of related note, these are for some reason my new favorite videos right now. This really is what girls are like. But not in a way that makes me feel like it's just stereotyping negatively (I think I could be something of a feminist if enough fuel was added to that fire. except for the fact that I don't really like female sports announcers). It kind of makes me feel happy and connected with girldom, because I do say some of these things. A lot.
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